A Guy’s Guide To Buying The Perfect Diamond

I know a lot about Enterprise Technology–it is the industry I have been in all of my adult career.  I know a lot about boats–I am a licensed captain and have sailed the entire U.S. east coast more times than I can remember. I know a lot about cars–because I love them! One area I was not well-versed on was engagement rings and, in particular, that shiny stone that sits on top.

It was a little over two years ago that I asked Cait to marry me in Barcelona, Spain.  The thought of popping the question, and whether she would say yes, was nerve-wracking enough. On top of that, I had to find an engagement ring with a presentable diamond that would complement Cait’s beauty (impossible).

If she accepted, our lives would change drastically. We would be making large financial decisions of selling real estate and buying a new home in our quaint, seaside community.  Needless to say, this created an even bigger challenge–not breaking the bank on an engagement ring.

I talked to my male friends (who had no clue about diamonds) and researched the subject online. It was pretty overwhelming. Eventually, I turned to a local jeweler, Jim Mallove, who’s an expert in the field — his family has been in the diamond business for generations. Jim owns Mallove’s of Mystic in Connecticut and broke down the basics for me.

From all of my research, this is what I determined is most important.

  • Color
  • Clarity
  • Cut 
  • Clarity 

Understanding these characteristics (at a rudimentary level) I now needed to identify which were the most important and what Cait would like best.  I knew that it should not be too small in size so I chose a decent carat (weight).  I knew the color should be crystal clear and that the cut (shape) should be classic and round (although the shapes can range from anywhere from princess to emerald, etc).

Now it came down to clarity.  I did not want a diamond that was hazy in clarity but also found out that the stone could have imperfections.  These imperfections are nearly, if not completely impossible, to see with the naked eye.

Diamonds are made up of carbon, and the black spots in the stone are just dots of carbon that have not crystallized. They are natural flaws that occurred during the formation of the diamond.  This would be an imperfection I could live with (and hopefully Cait could as well).

Because of these small imperfections you can find a fabulous looking diamond that is a good carat and has solid clarity for substantially less than a stone that is crystal clear and comparable in size. You can find these stones and engagement rings in your local jewelry store or even online.

On September 15, 2018, I asked Cait to marry me… she said YES! And, by the way, she loved the ring.

She said “Yes!”

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